I'm sorry, but I'm just not sorry. I know we're not supposed to judge other people's choices, but this is indicative of a greater problem with parenting in general these days, and the results are evident in the problems our children are experiencing by the time they're adolescents. It's selfish. It's selfish on a level that I can barely fathom. If you're not willing to be pregnant and give birth to your own baby, because you might gain a few pounds, a few stretch marks, or feel pain and exhaustion, then how are you going to deal with the sleep deprivation of a newborn? How will you justify the financial and personal time sacrifices that inevitably come with raising children? If you can't take a few weeks off of work to give birth, what will you do when your child gets sick and can't go to school? Will you be delegating all of these responsibilities to other people as well? If the answer is "yes", then why are you having a child to begin with? For ego? To say you did it? To avoid regret later in life?
Is that a harsh reaction to something that doesn't directly affect me? Maybe, except that it does affect me. It affects my children who will grow up with people who come from homes without parental involvement. It impacts the attitude of our society with regards to family values. If a generation of women are choosing sexy abs and another promotion over nurturing the most influential relationship a human being will have, from the point of conception, how can that possibly end well?
I know several women who've chosen not to be mothers. Sometimes for similar reasons as I stated above. They don't want to sacrifice their body, lifestyle, or career goals to become a parent. Of course that's a lifestyle decision that we can all respect and understand, even if we don't feel that way ourselves. Fortunately these women are aware that the pregnancy is a mere nine months, and the sacrifice and dedication continue for a minimum of eighteen years beyond that, if not longer. I posted a quote this morning before I even heard this story. It's a perfect fit.