When one person tells you something about yourself, you can take it as an opinion. When more than one person is telling you something about yourself, you might want to listen up.
I might worry too much, and be too quick to judge certain behaviors. Not when it's a group of adults usually, but when kids are involved. Sometimes I read too much into things, and assume the worse right off the bat. I absolutely lose sleep at night over the well being of my kids. I think all parents do that, but my worry might exist on another level.
Here's the thing - I'm 31 and I have four children to keep alive, healthy, happy, and well rounded. Up until 10 weeks ago, I was a 'single' parent, and spare me the "military wives aren't single parents" bullshit. Yes, I have someone out there earning the paycheck, but logistically when your husband is gone as much as mine is for years at a time, you're a single parent. That's a lot of pressure, around the clock. We've also moved seven times in thirteen years; new homes, new communities, new neighbors, new schools, so trust is hard to come by. I recently pulled Anna from preschool, because it didn't feel like the right time to let her go, not in a new community that we aren't fully settled in. We have neighbors who've lived by each other for 10 years. We've never had the same neighbor for longer than 2 years, and that's only happened once. I realize there are military wives, some with large families, who are relaxed and have an easy breezy attitude towards life, and assuming they're safe, I think that's great. I think freedom teaches kids a lot of valuable life lessons. I think fearlessness is a dangerous thing though, and there needs to be a balance.
“If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much.” — Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
Preach sister. Raising these girls is the most important thing I'll ever do. I've accomplished some things that I'm tremendously proud of, but nothing will give me a greater sense of pride, peace, and satisfaction than these four little women becoming strong, smart, contributing members of society, with all of their fingers and teeth and brain cells intact. I'm on a mission - a long term mission, and I might drive everyone crazy by the time Margo graduates from college, but until that happens I'm probably not going to lighten up, and I'm not apologizing for it either.
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