My parents happened to be in town, so we went for sushi, which is what we always do when we find ourselves kid-free. Then we wandered a pretty commons area with bars, restaurants, and shops. We skipped around, having drinks and appetizers, tasting gourmet balsamic vinegar, buying overpriced nautical stationary, and talking about nothing. We didn't discuss the kids, money, the move...anything. We were just comfortably quiet and light.
The next day was our Martha's Vineyard trip. We stopped for lunch, and a minute after our food arrived the Sailor held his fork up to my face. We always unintentionally order something different, despite liking the same foods, and we always give the other person a bite. We don't ask if they want one, or ask if we can have one. If it's good, the second of third bite goes to each other. I realized during lunch that I love that about our relationship at this point; knowing each other well enough to not have to communicate things verbally anymore, being so used to sharing everything that it's become second nature, and being able to spend an evening together without anything dramatic or serious to discuss. Living together again, without the stress of deployment or duty nights is giving us exactly what we needed as a family.
Life is busy, we're not getting any sleep, and there's never enough hours in the day, but we're genuinely settled and happy, which is something I don't think I could've said with 100% confidence in the past. If this all sounds boring to you, trust me, this lifestyle and our personalities offer enough spice and variety - some good ol' fashioned 'boring' is a dream come true.
Throwback Thursday 2008